Is your communication clear and direct? If someone invites you to lunch or an event, how do you respond? Do you say, “yes”, I think that might work”, or do you say “let me get back to you” or “yes”, that works for me”.

Whatever your response may be, I would like you to think about your communication. Is it noncommittal and indirect or is it clear and direct?

I believe your response reflects your self-esteem and your integrity. If you do not want to make a commitment when someone invites you to lunch or an event, it is ok to say, “let me get back to you”.

And are you honest in your response? Good self-esteem allows you to be honest in your communication.
Your communication is a reflection of who you are and how you treat others.

Have you ever received an invitation and responded “yes” only to find out that the invitee made other plans and then behaved as if they hadn’t invited you? Or has someone made a date or plan with you, then called at the last minute with an insincere excuse, or perhaps they just didn’t show-up?

How do you respond — or do you not respond? It’s important to take responsibility for your behavior and equally as important to let others take responsibility for their behavior.

It can be difficult to speak-up for ourselves, especially if we feel that we have been mistreated. However, good self-esteem allows us to express our feelings in a loving way and takes courage. If we do not speak up, we are taking responsibility for someone’s bad behavior, essentially robbing them of an important life lesson and a learning experience for both parties.

As you practice clear and direct communication, you will also develop a deeper sense of self. Remember, your communication is a reflection of who you are and how you treat others.